Hey Friends! So recently I met a young woman who waited until her wedding day to kiss her husband for the the first time. When she told me her story of waiting I screamed “Me too! Evans and I are waiting to have our first kiss on our wedding day too!”I was soooo excited that someone else was committing to purity in thought, word, and deed in their relationship by deciding not to kiss before marriage. I know this seems extreme…but stay with me, I’ll explain.
You see, I am a Christ follower. And in John 14:23 Jesus Christ of Nazareth speaks and is recorded as saying “Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them.“ I want the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit to make their home with me.
I want to obey the Jesus’s teaching in Matthew 15:16-20 where He makes it clear He does not want us to participate in sexual immorality:
“Don’t you understand yet?” Jesus asked. 17 “Anything you eat passes through the stomach and then goes into the sewer. 18 But the words you speak come from the heart—that’s what defiles you. 19 For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander. 20 These are what defile you. Eating with unwashed hands will never defile you.”
Now you may be asking yourself…Is kissing sexual immorality? And my answer is… that it is for me. My conscious and the conviction that I have from the Holy Spirit allow me to know that I cannot cross that threshold because it would lead to sin. I want to stay as far away from anything remotely close to “sexual immorality” so that I don’t get caught up in sin! That is how much I LOVE JESUS! I want to honor Him with my body in every way, so if anything could possibly get close to sin I am going to FLEE, RUN, ESCAPE! Because I LOVE CHRIST and THAT MEANS I OBEY HIS COMMANDS even if it costs me physical pleasure. Yeah it would be great to kiss my fiance…BUT I LOVE CHRIST SO MUCH MORE THAN MY FIANCE!
We cannot do this alone so we have been fasting, and we have accountability partners so that we can remind ourselves to invite the Holy Spirit into our relationship. We have to beef up the security…so that we may be found blameless before God. It is possible to date and stay pure with the help of the Holy Spirit! We are living proof. We have dated 3 years and never kissed. You are more than welcome to join us in our journey!
* Note: After 3 years we did eventually have our first kiss for our Engagement Ceremony in Ghana. This was a decision we felt was best for us as a couple ❤️